I’m happy to be working with POWERHANDZ and its POWER TO GIVE Foundation to host a private screening of Will Smith’s movie Concussion for YOUTH athletes (ages 13-18).
Saturday, February 6th.
There will be an exclusive red carpet event, private screening and then a short panel discussion with special guests, following the movie. This is a special night for youth athletes to enjoy a great movie and hear discussion points on how to love the game and playing it safe.
Seats are limited. Please follow the instructions on the attached flyer and sign your team up now!!
Please RSVP at firstname.lastname@example.org.
By mid-November 2015 I was already ready for 2016. There were a variety of reasons. The first (honest moment time), the holidays in my house are not the same anymore. There will always be a void without my husband. All of that “new normal”, start new traditions stuff is great, it sounds good, it helps, but sometimes you just want what you had because it’s what you loved. Now that my sons are older and the magic Christmas once held has given way to, “I don’t really want anything mom. Money is good…”, it’s just- different.
So I set my sights on all the great things I’d rather focus on this year. My sons are permanently affixed in the top spot, but just behind my role of mother is a new role I’m super excited about. Chairwoman of the North Texas chapter of the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society’s 2016 Man/Woman of the Year campaign. It doesn’t officially kick off until April, but behind the scenes I’ve been plugging away with LLS staff and planning committee. Last year’s campaign was a huge success with over $600,000 raised in 10 weeks between the amazing candidates. I was so excited about that accomplishment and then it hit me that I don’t want that number to drop this year on my watch. So stay tuned! I’ll be posting about ways to get involved and talking about this cause that’s near and dear to my heart a lot over the next few weeks!
What’s that saying? “If you can’t stop thinking about it, don’t stop working for it?”
Lately that keeps going through my head. I can’t turn it off.
Never been a secret, my first priority has always been my 2 sons. I’ve had to do whatever I thought was best to make sure they didn’t derail after losing their dad in middle school. Honestly I’ve never felt sorry for myself about being a widow, but my children being fatherless now is an odd type of guilt I’ll never shake. All I could do was pray that the time they had with him is remembered and create the best “new normal” I could. It will be a lifelong job of mine. I’ve accepted that.
In the midst of all of that I had to figure out things for myself too. This wasn’t how I imagined life being. My husband and I had plans. But cancer. I learned the rug can get jerked from up under you at any moment. One of the worst lessons ever.
I had to rediscover myself, reinvent myself, and remember not to be so hard on myself about some of the decisions I made. Things you do while feeling like the weight of the world is on your shoulders should automatically get an asterisk.
For some reason the past few weeks have been a series of lightbulb moments. One after another. Organic connections that lead me to believe that none of it was by chance. Simply put, it’s timing.
People ask me what I do and I sometimes think it’d be easier to list what I don’t do. Technically:
I’m a connector. I intrinsically know who should know whom and facilitate what’s needed to bring them together. The goal? A beneficial introduction for parties involved, business. And speaking of parties, I’ve been known to host private dinner parties to bring groups of these people together…because synergy over a great meal is amazing to experience.
I’m a consultant. People hire me to help them develop business ideas. Branding, social media, copywriting, etc., it goes hand in hand with the connecting part. I love watching someone’s business idea go from concept to fruition with my help.
I’m a cancer advocate. I share with others my family’s experience of life before, during and after cancer. I raise awareness for cancer related initiatives. I fund raise for cancer patients and their families. I want to empower those who can relate to our experience, especially caregivers who are often overlooked. With my late husband being a former NFL player, that adds an extra layer to my story. I feel like I could be the poster child of doing everything by the book, having life turn upside and then getting a lot of on the job training when it comes to the bounce back. It’s been quite the journey.
I’m a radio show co-host. On Sunday’s I get to talk a little sports. The show is The G.A.M.E., Golf & More Experience on FM 103.5… Golf is not my forte, I’m the “and more experience” part of the show. Having been on the “other side” of sports, I gladly offer up my opinion, which is different from most journalist and fans.
It’s last quarter of 2015 and I’m so excited about 2016 it’s scary. My baby will graduate from high school and I’ll become an empty nester. Ready for another leg of the journey I didn’t picture being this way, but that’s okay…
“What are you going to do with all of that dark? Find a way to glow in it.”
Wait what? It’s the middle of April already? The first quarter of 2015 is IN THE BOOKS? Where has the time gone? I’ve been too silent on here for too long, but not due to inactivity. I suspected 2015 would start off with a bang, a bang that would hopefully set me up to coast through the next 12 months doing good things. Being a firm believer in speaking things into existence, I also need to be careful of what I wish for. I don’t like overpromising and under delivering. In the midst of every thing going on
my attempts to blog have suffered [/angstfaceemoji].
But enough about that…let’s recap!
January: I started 2015 off with my vision board complete. I’m a believer in them. I take the task of creating one serious. After it’s complete I sit it in my room in a spot where I have to look at it each day. Not necessarily a deliberate, stand-in-front-of-and-study look, but just enough so that what I’ve decided to place on the board is in my spirit EVERY SINGLE DAY. After I completed this board and took a moment to reflect on it, I noticed an unintentional theme… BE STRONG!
Being featured in the style section of the January 2015 issue of D Magazine was a huge treat! I’ve always loved fashion, shopping, and the retail business. I was the little girl that played with Fashion Plates (remember those, yeah, I’m dating myself). Watched Style With Else Klensch on Saturday mornings just as much as I watched cartoons. And of course one of my first jobs was working in a clothing store (Remember Merry-Go-Round?). I made NO money, but I had first dibs on new clothes so that was a trade off worth having. Becoming a wife and mom made those interests of mine shift a bit. No biggie, that’s life, as women, that’s what we do. Add layers, shed layers, putting everyone else first is almost the only constant. But when I lost my husband in 2010, I had to refind myself. I wanted to be the woman that could say that becoming a widow didn’t change me, but as time passed, I realized that it had. I had to
February - Having an opportunity to share my family’s experience with multiple myeloma during the Lone Star Blood Cancer Conference was an honor. I’ve said it a thousand times, this had to happen to us for a reason. If something I say about what we went through helps one person, it was worth it. Quite frankly, I would wish what we endured on my worst enemy, but let me tell you, I know what my sons and I are made of and we’re stronger for it.
March - This was by far the toughest month for me. It’s the month that marked the five year anniversary of losing my husband, as well as the month that is nationally recognized as the awareness period for the very disease that caused him to be taken from us. I felt like I had to walk a fine between over sharing via my social media platforms and feeling like I wasn’t saying enough. Even writing about it now puts me in a funky space. So for now, I’ll just stop.
April – We’re a little over halfway through April. The month kicked off with me meeting Robin Roberts when she came to Dallas a few days ago. Most importantly I felt like we “had a moment”. I’d always admired her from days at ESPN, when I was in high school contemplating a career in journalism. When she was diagnosed with breast cancer, fought it and won I was elated. But in 2013, when it was announced she needed a stem cell transplant due to a blood condition called myelodysplastic disorder, my heart broke. I knew what that meant. I saw people across social media and television reaching out to her and wishing her well. I always wondered if they understood the magnitude of the procedure. My husband had one done in 2006. It’s quite common for myeloma patients to need bone marrow transplants to help prolong their lives. The way it was described to me just before Elijah went in for his is that you’re being given a lethal dosage of chemo, basically brought close to death, then brought back to life. The patients immune system is essentially wiped out and restarted, they’re like newborns. The recovery is tough, but can literally be the difference between life and death. I prayed for Robin. Having the chance to thank her personally for sharing her story and telling her that I appreciated the way she acknowledged her partner who was also her caregiver was simply mind-blowing.
The month isn’t over yet…we’ll see what else in store. In the meantime I promise it won’t take me so long to update.
I was so happy to host another KimCONNECTS dinner on December 3rd. This one was held in conjunction with me sharing my first published piece of work, “Fairytales, Fate and Fortitude’. It’s about my family’s experience with my late husband’s diagnosis of multiple myeloma and how we’ve had to carry on without him. It was over sold, but my guests didn’t seem to mind having a few extra chairs pulled up. Special thanks to Hot Poppin’ for providing attendees with a sweet treat as they left. Now that 2014 is winding down I am already working on more KimCONNECTS dinners in 2015. Stay tuned!
So honored to have been featured by Pro Player Insiders.
Click HERE to read the full article by Theresa Villano.
As a founding member of Off the Field, Players’ Wives Association I’m always eager to help in our fundraising activities. For a second year in a row we are supporting St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital’s “Give Thanks. Walk.” in several NFL markets. As the team leader for the Dallas market, I’ll be hosting a pre-walk, kickoff event on Thursday, October 16 at Terlingo Cycle. A special thanks to John Terlingo for opening the doors to his studio for us again, helping us serve this great cause! For information on how to participate, please visit www.LetsGearUp.eventbrite.com.
Who: Kimberly Alexander on behalf of Off the Field, Players’ Wives Association
What: Let’s Gear Up – Spin Cycle Class benefitting St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital
Early-bird registration is $50
Registration after 10/9/14 will be $75
(all proceeds go to St. Jude)
When: Thursday, October 16 at 7:30 pm
Where: Terlingo Cycle,
Why: The mission of St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital is to advance cures, and means of prevention, for pediatric catastrophic diseases through research and treatment. Consistent with the vision of our founder Danny Thomas, no child is denied treatment based on race, religion or a family’s ability to pay.
To be included in the gift bag, please contact Kristin Smith-Sensbaugh at Kristin@TheCladLife.com
Let’s Gear Up – 2013
So here’s the truth. Part of the reason I hesitated about restarting my blog was that I was afraid of the commitment. Nothing worse than logging in to check out someone’s blog and finding it hasn’t been updated in weeks or even worse, months. So this past June I jumped in, determined to NOT be “that” blogger and well… Ahem. But I have a good excuse!!! Well several, but THEE best one is a tiny announcement I have to make. I am thisclose to being a published author. Hmmm, should I end that statement with a period or an exclamation point? Sharing this news is hard for me. Not because I’m not excited about it, but because I struggle with self promoting. So strange. I can sing the praises of everyone else, put on a cheerleading uniform and go all in for people I support, love and admire, but when it comes to me…crickets. So pardon me while I find that balance between putting myself out there and not becoming the person you hate to see coming. When you see my name I want you to have good thoughts.
I recently wrote my first piece which will be featured as a chapter in a book called Dare to be A Difference Maker, Volume 4. I had to take time away from the blog to focus on it. This is what I call my baby step towards doing what I WILL do very soon (already claiming it), which is write a book! ”About what?”, you may ask. Life. I feel like I’ve experienced darn near everything imaginable and unimaginable at warp speed. To say those experiences haven’t changed me and my perspective on life would be the understatement of the year. Nothing like taking some time to reflect to make you realize how much you’ve changed and grown, especially when you had no desire or interest in either. When life seems “good like always” and then it isn’t… it’s all about Fairytales, Fate and Fortitude. Stay tuned! xo
It’s been a long time coming, me getting back to blogging that is. I started my first one around November of 2005, weeks after my late husband was diagnosed with a blood cancer called multiple myeloma. It was an easy way for our friends, who were spread out all over the map, to stay up to date with what was going on with his health. I knew not everyone wanted to reach out and ask, so giving them the opportunity to check in when they wanted to just made sense. After his death in March of 2010 I had a hard time going back to it. Too many memories. Despite his cancer being terminal, his passing was sudden and unexpected. Looking backwards was hard when I was trying to figure out how to move forward.
I tell people all the time that I will never fix my lips to complain about what happened to our family. I felt like we had almost 5 bonus years with my husband because we could have lost him back in 2005. The past four years without him have been – interesting. A time to establish a “new normal”. Becoming a young widow and raising our two sons alone was something I knew was a possibility when he was diagnosed. I couldn’t comprehend the magnitude of the task until it actually happened. I went in to operation “Just-Keep-Going” mode. That meant doing what I thought was best for our sons well-being, figuring out what I was going to do with my unraveling world, and making sure I stayed involved with the cancer community that was now like extended family to me.
So what will this blog be about, you ask? Pretty much any and everything under the sun. Lord knows my life has been filled with some of the most random, poignant and even entertaining moments as I’ve “adjusted”. When you’ve seen what I’ve seen and experienced what I’ve experienced your perspective becomes different. And that’s putting it mildly. I used to tell people that becoming a widow at the age of 37 didn’t change me, but boy was that NOT TRUE! Oh, I’m different alright. I equate it to a butterfly coming out of a cocoon. A butterfly with a hint of pit bull now, I might add, because my tolerance level for nonsense plummeted after March 24, 2010. I guess that’s the byproduct of having the rug snatched from under you unexpectedly. You learn to appreciate the good in your life and dismiss the bad so you can make MORE room for good that just HAS to be on its way. I mean seriously, more good is coming, right?! Call me an “eternal optimist”. Always looking for the bright spot…or trying to be the bright spot, both work for me. So with that in mind… WELCOME!